Why Letting Twins Be “Different” Might Shape Stronger Adults

The other day, I was watching a reality show about twins who are so inseparable that they live together even as adults — partners included. It immediately reminded me of how often we see twins dressed in identical clothes, doing identical activities, and being treated almost like a single unit rather than two unique individuals.

This got me thinking: what happens to individuality when children are constantly paired together? Especially for twins, the world often expects them to mirror each other. But individuality isn’t just a “nice-to-have” trait — it’s essential for developing independence, confidence, and a sense of self. When kids are encouraged to explore different hobbies, interests, and even clothing styles, they learn to embrace who they are, not who they are “supposed” to be. Without this, they may grow into adults who struggle to separate their identity from someone else’s.

If you’re a parent, relative, or even a teacher, encourage children (twins or not) to pursue what lights them up. Instead of pushing them into identical boxes, let them choose their own paths — whether it’s what they wear, what sport they try, or what creative outlet excites them. Those small freedoms add up to big lessons in self-discovery.

Do you think treating twins as a “pair” instead of two individuals does more harm than good in the long run? I’d love to hear your perspective.